presents? for MEEEEE?
- Welcome!
- TL;DR
- OK, Now The Fun Stuff
- About Me
- Arts & Media
- Fandoms
- Foods & Flavours
- Technology
- Clothing
- Style Icons
- Various Miscellany
- Charities I Support
- Stalk Me Online
tiara's secret santa profile and wishlists
all in one easy spot!
Welcome!
If you are here, you probably got me as a match for a Secret Santa exchange, such as redditgifts or Metafilter's Secret Quonsar. Or maybe you're feeling generous and want to get me something. That's cool!
Here I will list out my likes and dislikes in more detail, and also give you some wishlists and online profiles for you to check out. That way you have just enough information about me to figure out what a good gift would be!
I made this in 2014 after participating in a pile of Secret Santas and noticing that they tend to ask for the same information over and over. Feel free to use the navigation above to jump around - you don't have to read every last letter of this.
Feel free to contact me via the Secret Santa's contact features if you need further clarification! And thank you so much for participating! I hope the gift you receive will be just as awesome if not more.
<3 Creatrix Tiara
Last updated: 11/11/2019
tl;dr
Puzzles!
One thing I've long wanted but never really gotten is some kind of puzzle or quest to go with my present. For example, my niece recently had a spy/detective themed birthday where she had to crack codes to open her presents. I get that from a distance, organising something larger scale would be tricky, but even a small personalised puzzle would make my day. The present could be whatever really - it's the experience that would be fab.
Postage Notes
Australia has a pretty reliable postal system, though shipping can be pricey from overseas and the quarantine laws are pretty strict (esp with food or organic matter). I'm totally fine with stuff being delivered directly from the vendor (inc Amazon/Book Depository, small time Etsy shops, and all in between). Also feel free to buy from Australian retailers, such as local bookstores or local merchants (I recommend Hares and Hyenas) - they may have what you're after for much cheaper shipping since it'd be local postage. Digital's all good too!
Quick Gift Ideas
Stage magic props (good quality), the Homestuck books, most other books, time with a personal assistant, crosswords, escape rooms, detective games, sparkly makeup/body stuff, anything Darren Hayes/Steven Universe/Homestuck/Ace Attorney/Tara (Wicked & Divine)/Carmen Sandiego related, Xbox One games, Android games, houseware that looks good and is functional, tickets to something fun
Key Likes & Dislikes
Likes
Ace Attorney, Darren Hayes, Harry Potter, Aqua, Homestuck, Steven Universe, Carmen Sandiego, stage magic, Femme Daddy aesthetic, crosswords, books, zines, technology, music, arts & performance, circus, detective/investigation games, quests, treasure hunts, salty+sweet combo flavours, gold+black, purples/reds/blacks, glittery, bats, platypus, cats, the Internet, social activism, travel, feminism, queer culture, supporting indie artists, spas, mail, aerogrammes, experiences
Dislikes/Don't-Have-Much-Use-Fors
Stuff that needs a bathtub (don't have one...yet), earrings unless they're clip-ons, licorice, berries, stone fruit, anything generic-feminine or generic-masculine, anything racist/sexist/homophobic/body-shaming/etc, skin lightening/Fair and Lovely-esque products, zombies, anything particularly gory or horrific, needles/piercings (phobia!), insects
Current Life Events Worth Noting
1. I might buy my first home soon. It's been a big project for the better part of this year and while nothing is confirmed, we've come close a few times, So by the time Secret Santas roll around I might have my own place! So anything along the lines of housewarming gifts (think slightly upscale homewares that look good and work well) would be great!
2. I've been working in stage magic over the past year. Specifically on my stage magic + social justice + storytelling show Queer Lady Magician - I'm starting work on a sequel. Good magic props and books are hella expensive so I've been DIYing a lot of it, but being able to invest in some key items & knowledge would make a big difference. I'm also working on a Magician Explains Ace Attorney YouTube series and am hoping to incorporate actual magic performance in there.
3. I'm really getting into detective/investigation games. I've enjoyed games like Nancy Drew in the past, but I've recently become a MASSIVE fan of Phoenix Wright: Ace Attorney - I've gone through most of the series so far. (I still haven't played Spirit of Justice, Ace Attorney Investigations, The Great Ace Attorney, and the Professor Layton crossover.) Having only an Xbox One and an Android phone limits my options somewhat (I do have a Windows 10 computer now, but I want to keep it solely for work/creative stuff) but if you know of any others send them my way!
4. I'm also enjoying crosswords. I have a Crosswords app on my phone as well as an NYT Crosswords subscription. I've just learned how to do cryptics and am getting some practice in. I'm trying to make my own crossword, but it's tricky.
5. I'm cultivating a Femme Daddy aesthetic. A kind of genderbend, powerful leaning femme but not too dominatrixy, cropped jackets and boots and vests and glitter, and suits.
and now, the fun stuff!
About Me
Name: Creatrix Tiara (you can call me Tiara)
Age and Birthdate: 34, 09/26/1985
Current Location: Melbourne, Australia
Gender/Sexuality: Queer genderqueer/non-binary femme
Ethnicity: South/South-East Asian, but that barely tells you anything about me
Relationship Status: Single and too tired to mingle. Honestly my best friend and I have a pretty deep romantic bromance already so that's enough emotional energy.
Pets and Dependents: None (turns out I am very allergic to cats and somewhat allergic to dogs, bah)
Things I Do
Profession: Shenaniganist. Creative production, performance art, media, writing, organising ++ for my own projects and others. My website has more info. Currently studying Accounting and Bookkeeping.
Currently: Based in Melbourne, more permanently than I expected. I'll finally be eligible for Australian citizenship next year, which is...weird, to say the least.
Things I Like To Do: Producing shows & events is a lot of fun even when it's a big headache! Live performance (stage magic, theatre, spoken word, burlesque, improv), trying new things, crosswords, volunteering (esp organising), going to shows, travel, reading, playing games, being a Fairy Godmother to people (esp via surprises), research, SHENANIGANS
Things I Never Quite Do Enough Of But Should: More physical arts, more building/making stuff (I'm not very experienced but it is pretty satisfying!), more escape room-style things (hard to do alone), more music
Interests
Liminality (the state of in-between), intersectionality, identity, magic (stage and witchy woo), media, community-building, interdisciplinary arts, sexuality, gender, feminism, anti-racism, LGBTQ issues, travel, intercultural communication, game design, creative technology, the Internet, fandom culture, glitter, creativity, social justice, alternative education, puzzles, live performance, awesomeness
Bucket List
* Go to Central Asia
* Get a DNA test to find out if I am indeed a chimera and absorbed my twin
* Play Tara in a live-action adaptation of The Wicked + The Divine
* Play Delphi in Harry Potter & The Cursed Child
* Spend some time with a personal assistant (even for like a week)
* Record an album
* Publish a book or a graphic novel
* Learn hang-gliding or some other flying sport
* Take flamenco lessons
* Participate in an epic treasure hunt (think MIT Puzzle Hunt)
* Have fanworks made based on something I've written or starred as
* Create my own perfume
* Visit every world region at least once (missing Central Asia, South America, East Europe, Central America, all of Africa, Polynesia, Poles)
* Be able to vote properly
* Travel to outer space
* Make a music video
Arts & Media
Books and Print
I AM SUCH A VORACIOUS READER OM NOM NOM honestly i would read just about anything
Authors: I've become less attached to authors, especially since my favourites run the gamut. Some tried and true ones: Phillip Pullman, Jostein Gaarder, Roald Dahl, Diana Wynne Jones, Neil Gaiman, Seanan Mcguire, Jasper Fforde, Scott Westerfeld, Mark Dunn, Bhanu Kapil, Marissa Mayer
J.K. Rowling used to be higher on this list but I've become a bit tired of her shit :P
Comics: The Wicked + The Divine (mainly Tara), Archie, Lumberjanes, Fables, Unwritten, Sandman (the Endless variety). I know Homestuck is in a book form now and I'd love to get copies of those!
Genres: YA, creative non-fiction, magical realism, reimagined fairy tales, queer lit, #WeNeedDiverseBooks, modern-day sci-fi, witchy woo, feminist, social change, artsy, fiction that incorporates a puzzle element, society & culture, anti-racism, tech/digital, creative entrepreneurship, pop psychology, choose-your-own-adventure
Magazines: GOOD, Dumbo Feather, Archer. I haven't really kept up with magazines lately, I tend to mainly go for them when they have content that interests me.
Zines: I have a fluctuating zine collection! I tend to collect informative/how-to or activity zines more than perzines or fanzines, but I’m open to all sorts of zines about anything!
Mail: I LOVE mail. All the mail. I'm especially a big fan of aerogrammes.
TV/Movies/Web
Websites: I used to write for Autostraddle! I'm on and off with Metafilter. Mostly I just stick to social media and follow any shared links.
Webcomics: Homestuck (and a zillion fanventures), XKCD, Questionable Content, Something Positive, Dumbing of Age, Oglaf, SMBC
YouTube: Game Grumps, Li Ziqi, Dianxe Xiaoge, Contrapoints (yes I know of the controversy), Kat Blaque, Game Theory, vlogbrothers, Mr Kate, Sorry Girls, Safiya Nygaard, Michelle Khare, Try Guys (Eugene is a sweetie), the "Try XYZ Thing" genre, creative home decor, video essays
TV: Carmen Sandiego, Last Week Tonight with John Oliver, Steven Universe, Riverdale, Queer Eye, Handmaid's Tale, American Gods, The Magicians (I haven't caught up with the last 3 though). I did like Gravity Falls and am currently checking out She-Ra.
Movies: I'm not a huge movie person, though I really loved Maleficent and have a soft spot for Care Bears. My favourite movie as a child was Yellow Submarine, which should tell you something about me. Other movies I've liked: Pitch Perfect, Legally Blonde, Harry Potter (esp Prisoner of Azkaban), Hunger Games, Moulin Rouge
Music
Bands: Darren Hayes, Savage Garden, We Are Smug, Aqua, Lene Nystrom, Homestuck OST, Weird Al Yankovic, Joan Jett, Jem, Garbage, ratatat
Genres: Mashups, rock-pop, electro-pop, unusual takes on covers, chiptune covers, rockin' leading ladies with contralto voices (e.g. Joan Jett, Shirley Manson, Pat Benatar), ambient, parodies, dark cabaret, disco, Femme Fatale Queer
Other Arts
Visual Art: I don't have any specific favourite artists, but I do like art that touches on the same themes as my general interests or tastes in media. I do sometimes collect portraits of myself, especially in unusual or cartoony styles!
Games: Ace Attorney, Nancy Drew, Steven Universe, Machine of Death, Munchkin, Psychonauts, Myst, The Sims, Glitch (RIP), Costume Quest, Scribblenauts
Things I Want To Learn: Pottery, jewelry-making, tech + fashion, keytar (I have one I just need to play it), mashup-making, video editing
Fandoms
Ace Attorney
Games Played: The original trilogy, Apollo Justice, Dual Destinies
Favourite Game: The original trilogy, but Dual Destinies is growing on me
Favourite Character: THE ORCAS IN THE DD DLC OMG CUTE. Also if Franziska was less of a brat she'd totally be a Femme Daddy.
Carmen Sandiego
Mainly the Netflix adaptation where she's now repatriating stolen goods. My favourite poem of all time is Carmen Sandiego Reacts to the Travel Ban.
Homestuck
Classpect: Sylph of Heart, with Witch and Mind/Light tendencies. The Homestuck test says I'm a Life player which - why
Dream Planet: Supposedly Prospit but I am much more of a Dersite coz come on.
Favourite Characters: I am essentially Porrim Maryam in all but hair and possibly like Davepetasprite^2. I also love Kanaya Maryam, Terezi Pyrope, Nepeta Leijon
Cosplay: Recently did Sun-Sari Rose. I would also like to do Mind-Sari Terezi or Kebaya Kanaya.
Darren Hayes / Savage Garden / We Are Smug
Favourite Album: The Tension and The Spark
Favourite Songs: I Like The Way, To The Moon and Back, Hot Tub Blues, Where You Wanted To Be, Creepin' Up on You, Sing to Me, Timebomb, urgh there's too many to list and most of them are obscure b-sides
The Wicked + The Divine
Favourite Character: FUCKING TARA DESERVED FUCKING BETTER though I guess she did get a happy ending eventually
Favourite Issue: The one where Tara gets to say her side of the story (#13)
Harry Potter
Ok this is a hard one because while I still enjoy the books, J.K. Rowling's recent attitude has made me very tired. I'm more fond of the "Death of the Author let's go international" side of the fandom.
House: Slytherin with some Ravenclaw and occasionally more Gryffindor than I'd like to admit
Favourite Book: Order of the Phoenix
Favourite Movie: Prisoner of Azkaban
Favourite Characters: Mafalda Prewett, who was supposed to be Hermione's rival but in Slytherin. SUCH MISSED POTENTIAL. Hermione herself is pretty rad.
Aqua
Favourite Member: Lene Nystrom-Rasted (her lone solo album Play With Me is underrated kick-ass)
Favourite Songs: My Mama Said, Roses are Red, Lollipop (Candyman), most things from Play With Me
Foods & Flavours
Yum
Flavours & Cuisines: I'm pretty adventurous and like to try "weird" things. Salty + sweet combined, savoury/umami, meaty, smoky, spicy (wasabi, mustard, peppery, chili), rose, unusual flavour pairings, Malaysian/Singaporean, Chinese, Indian, Japanese, fusion, molecular gastronomy, hot breakfasts
Savoury: Most nuts, heavily buttered popcorn, pretzels, jerky, Twisties, thin-cut potato chips, hash browns, eggs, dried seaweed, kale chips, cheese (esp havarti and mozarella), biscuits (the American variety) - despite the smaller section I actually prefer savoury to sweet
Sweets: I've just been diagnosed with metabolic syndrome/insulin resistance which means my ability to process sugar is now compromised!! So a lot of my favourites now make me ill. I do still like super super dark chocolate and enjoy pies & cinnamon rolls when I can. Turkish Delight is pretty good too.
Fruits & Veg: Persimmon, melon, Asian fruits. I'm weirdly picky about fruit but am more flexible with vegetables. I do like Asian preserved fruit, including stuff like plums that would normally be in my Hell No list.
Meaty Things: I'm pretty adventurous with meat. I LOVE seafood (any sort!), especially sashimi, and am fond of lamb and goat meat, also offal. The weirder the better.
Drinks: Same issues with sugar applies unfortunately. Hot chocolate, mocha, matcha, green tea, teas in general, cream, evaporated milk, absinthe, hot cocktails, mead (I'm not that big an alcohol drinker though)
YUCK / MEH
* Liquorice and anything anise-y (except for absinthe, oddly)
* Condensed milk (I like the taste, the problem is that it makes me sick now due to metabolic syndrome)
* Fruity flavours in anything that isn't actually fruit (e.g. teas, baked goods, candy) - EXCEPT apple pie or weirdly cheese
* Strawberries and most other berries
* Cherries, peaches, plums, apricots, other stone fruit
* Sour stuff, especially sour candy (though I do like Asian preserved fruit)
* Gummies
* Hard candy/lollipops/anything that is 99% sugar
* Natto and most other fermented stuff
* Celery
* Arugula/rocket
* Chocolate with fruits in them (I generally prefer my chocolate to not be filled with anything but I'm more forgiving around nuts)
* Raisins and sultanas
* IPA beer
* Bittergourd, collard greens, any other bitter veges
* Tomatoes unless it's in soup or cherry tomatoes
* Fennel seed
Technology
What I Have
* Surface Pro 6 with Windows 10
* Google Pixel 3
* Xbox One (also functions as a DVD player)
* Kindle Paperwhite
* External hard drive
* Steam account
* Blue Snowball mic
* OK quality drawing tablet
* Tripod for phone
* DSLR cameraWhat Would Be Nice To Have
Hardware
* Lighting for YouTube videos (soft box or ring light)
* Other game consoles (PS4, Nintendo Switch)
* Gaming computer
* Microphone for video recording
Software & Games
* Investigation/detective games
* Good quality video editing software (I have Shotcut but it crashes sometimes and I could never really get Davinci Resolve to work)
Clothing, Accessories, Body
Outfits
Tops: Sleeveless or short sleeves, V-necks, cape jackets, cropped jackets, waistcoats, dress shirts, long enough to be a dress
Bottoms: Suit pants, skinny jeans, low-risers
Dresses: Mod style, genderbendy, HAS POCKETS
Other Clothing: Suits, blazers, trenchcoats, catsuits, bomber jackets, leggings, jeggings, lenghas
Accessories: Harnesses and body chains are my current fave. Also wings, tiaras, claws, fascinators, glitter
Shoes: Boots, sneaker-like casual shoes (I wear mine out so quickly)
Perfume, Makeup, Body
IMPORTANT: I HAVE WEIRD ALLERGIES!
Most importantly, drugstore/cheap stuff tends to make me break out in hives, but homemade/Etsy, indies, and brands like Lush and Body Shop work fine on me. NOT Burt's Bees on body.
Perfume: Animalistic, musky, rose, incense-y, smoky, dark, gothic, unusual smells, baked goods/edibles, tea/coffee/hot choc
Types of Makeup: Eyeshadow, eyeliner, body & face glitters, hair-based accessories/makeup, mascara, flavoured lipbalm, lipstick in particular colours (blood red/crimson, black, deep jewel tones)
Bath and Body: Baked goods/edibles (not the weed sort), musk, rose, honey, sparkly, shower gels, body butters, scrubs, henna, temporary tattoos
Sizes, Styles, Brands
Sizes
Generally: M / 10-12 US / 12-14 Aus
Body Shape: Average leaning curvy, busty, near hourglass (I've lost a little bit of weight recently)
Height: 5'5" (163.5cm)
Shoe Size: 9 - 10 Wide
Styles
Aesthetic: Femme Daddy, Rockstar Domme, gothy, burlesque, sparkly, smart casual, hard femme, tomboy femme/slightly soft butch, geek
Colours: Gold+black, medium-to-deep purples, blood red/crimson, black, white, medium-to-dark blues, jewel tones (though I am not exclusively attached to those colours)
Patterns: Clever wordplay or imagery, stripes, stars, rainbows, hearts, cats, abstract art, roses, henna-ish
Fabric: Velvet, very fuzzy, sparkly
Brands
I don't normally care about brands, esp since I get a lot of my stuff second-hand/thrifted, from clothes swaps, from indie/artisanal designers, or from friends and associates - but this could be useful for starting points (esp w allergies)
Clothing: MissGuided, H&M
Perfume: BPAL
Makeup: MAC
Bath & Body: Lush, Body Shop
Things I Don't (Usually) Wear
Clothing: Long sleeves unless they're part of a nicely pressed dress shirt, pencil skirts or any similarly-hugging skirts, turtlenecks, anything very conservative/stodgy, halter tops, square tops, strapless, high necklines, maxi skirts, corsets, ruffles on anything
Accessories: I'm generally not a big jewelry person; I rarely wear it unless it helps with a costume or it's meaningful/sentimental. I can't do most earrings unless they're clip-ons.
Shoes: Stilettos, anything without ankle support, most high heels (I can work with boots)
Bath and Body: Anything that needs a bathtub (since I don't have one), drugstore stuff, Burt's Bees, anything fruity/citrusy/overly floral
Aesthetic: Generic Straight Girl, soft femme, rockabilly, super girly, super butch/masculine, polka dots, skulls, plaid
Colours: Greens, yellows, oranges (though I wouldn't mind them if they were part of a larger piece), browns
Style Icons
Joan Jett
Regina Mills
Freddie Mercury
Sn8wman
Weakest Link Hosts
Maleficent
Various Miscellany
Themes
Colours: Reds (esp blood red/deep red), deep purples, black, jewel tones, gold
Animals: Bats, platypus, cats, anything cute and fluffy (esp FLUFFY). My best friend and I have a running injoke about sloths and beavers but that's mainly an Us thing.
Witchy-Woo-related: I float between believer and skeptic with this but still hold some kind of fascination. Technopaganism, pop culture magic, tarot cards & similar (esp artsy/avant garde/postmodern interpretations), Kali, Kwan Yin, incense, magical oils, magical jewelry, witches, faeries (there's suspicion that I am fae)
Shapes/Patterns: Stars, rainbows, hearts, cartoony bats/platypus/cats, clever puns, roses, passport stamps
Experiences: Immersive performance art (esp with audience participation), Real Escape Games, international travel, creative geeky social-change conferences and conventions, spa treatments, co-creating something awesome with a great group of people, going on tour, drawn-out multi-course dinners, all-you-can-eat buffets, drumming circles
Subscription Services: I LOVE getting things in the mail - one time my PO Box provider accused me of buying things online just so I could send myself mail, and it took me a while to admit that he was right. I haven't signed up to a lot of subscription services but I would like to - especially ones for food, art and creative stuff, or anything really unusual.
Pie In The Sky (If You're Feeling Generous)
* Time with a personal assistant
* A personalised quest
* Dominatrix lessons
* Entry in an epic treasure hunt (e.g. the MIT Puzzle Hunt)
* Unlimited travel
* First-class/airport lounge passes
* A custom-made tiara
* A personalised portrait or song
* A zillion dollars
* Hang-gliding lessons
* A custom harness or Femme Daddy suit
* A personal stylist that understands rockstar-style
* Custom-made perfume
* Visa-free travel* Epic spa days/weekends
* Subscriptions, all of them
Charities I Support
My second home in the Bay Area, host to the core of sex-positive culture in the world and run by two of my Fairy Godparents (Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence). They've since shut down premises alas!
Home of Yoni Ki Baat, an incredible theater production by and about South Asian women that I've had the privilege of being a part of for four years now.
Highly committed to human rights worldwide. I used to be a volunteer at their KL branch.
Find Me Online
Note: a lot of these need to be updated!
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